Late fatherhood - a gift of fate, or undue risk?

late pregnancy

What is it - late pregnancy? Is it always fraught with danger and risk? If yes - how they justified? And in general, what it is - to be a mother at the age? Mom, that inadvertently can take for my grandmother? Hundreds of these issues persistently plagued by those "who are over ..." who discovered one morning that they are pregnant.

Baby after 40

Some women nature made it impossible for independent choice of the perfect age for motherhood. Others to leave later prompted remarriage. Third pregnancy in "forty-something" caught by surprise, gryanuv like a bolt from the blue.

But if the decision to have a child is accepted under the influence of a momentary mood; if - the fruit of serious reflection, resulting in the bowl with the plus sign was an order of magnitude more significant negativity and fear, the chance of having a healthy baby is extremely high.

And it's not only in the inner mood of expectant mother on a positive - not included in the work of objective factors, projecting a kind of guarantor of successful delivery.

Firstly, the emotional and psychological readiness to become a mother at this age are much higher than in the early years.

Secondly, it is extremely responsible attitude to pregnancy, childbirth and the health of the future baby motivates "age" mothers regularly visit the doctor and strictly follow all its recommendations.

And finally, for mature women, pregnancy is perceived as a generous gift of fate, not annoying interference is not difficult to decisively abandon bad habits and all that can harm crumbs.

To save the desired pregnancy, they will not neglect sports, adoption vitamin supplements and dieting, and preparation for childbirth will begin ahead of time and with the greatest possible seriously. Just because a conscious motherhood - happiness, not a burden.

First career, then the child?

Why not? Why not take care of the construction of the material basis, before giving life to the little man? From the first days of birth of the child to provide him with a comfortable home where the baby will wait for a private room, comfortable bed and wonderful toys - is reprehensible? With regard to the age of health problems, it is often successful and carefully watching for a business lady can give a hundred points ahead very young, occasionally leading to nourish and not the most healthy way of life, female students.

"Mothers need different!" - a children's classic will not argue, but took place in a professional sense woman will give the child a more successful launch than the twitching burdens of life saleswoman tobacco kiosk.

In addition, in the first case, the baby will get a lot more attention, warmth and care, because the woman does not have to exert a lot of effort in order to establish a way of life and move forward in your career - no wonder psychologists say that children later, as a rule, much more talented and gifted peers.

The risks of late pregnancy

If the picture of late pregnancy is too much cloudless and a rainbow, then, is the time to dilute it with a small portion of tar. With all the advantages late motherhood attempt to become a mother in the 35-40 years - quite risky: the threat of miscarriage in this case is considerably higher, and the chance of complications during pregnancy enough great.

If the expectant mother is suffering from chronic diseases, it is very likely that the pregnancy will cause them aggravation. Dangers can trap and during childbirth - often labors in recent mothers is weak, but because of the lost elasticity of the tissue increases the likelihood of birth canal tears.

Therefore, in the case of late delivery doctors often resort to caesarean section.

According to statistics, the kids in mature mothers at birth have less weight than children of young women in childbirth. In addition, the age of the parents affects the possibility of chromosomal abnormalities in the baby, such as Down's syndrome.

But, fortunately, the achievements of modern diagnostics allow to identify existing deviations from the fetus to the early stage of pregnancy, and this makes it possible to avoid the risk of the birth of genetically unhealthy offspring.

By the way, the responsibility for possible deviations in the child not only has my mother.

When the Pope by age can be a grandfather

Yes, the age of the father no less impact on the future health of your baby. The sperm of men with time undergone major genetic changes that largely due to the hard work and alcohol and tobacco abuse.

Fathers, whose age is over 45, the chance is high occurrence of children with birth defects of the spinal cord and the cardiovascular system, and this will undoubtedly increase the risk of a possible child mortality.

How to prevent the danger? Men who wish to know the joy of fatherhood in adulthood, it is strongly recommended to go a preliminary examination by a geneticist and get ready for the appearance of the heir no less carefully than woman.

However, the advantages of the later parenthood abound. Of the men in advanced age are obtained calm and balanced father, and the child grows up in an atmosphere of emotional stability that gives him a sense of security. And the experience of mature fathers, dictates a high responsibility for the children - those of Pope gently care for the child, putting a lot of effort into its formation and education.

Give birth or not to give birth?

If you suffer from this, almost Hamlet's question, think about what sorts success is made up of many components, including the age assigned is not the main role.

Much more important is a competent preparation for pregnancy and carefully follow the advice of doctors. Often, a woman in years, having good heredity and leading a healthy lifestyle, is tougher and stronger than a young girl.

Therefore, the biological age can be radically different from the nameplate data.

The accumulated wisdom and patience will give you the strength to overcome all possible difficulties, and reward is the highest joy of motherhood. Believe me, a tiny creature, which you allow to be born, will change your life, filling it with the light of pure love. Because children - this is happiness. Any age.

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Jeanne Metlenkova

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Prologue

Directing unseeing eyes at the other end of the small lawn in the midst of gloomy forests, I shudder again. All 19 years of my life in a carefree moment pass before my eyes, and yet more recently I was a baby. Who could have imagined that, even on the threshold of adulthood, I can cool plunge into another mess.

Warm brown eyes intently watching me. This is no longer the same eyes that I could love so much. He wants to kill me. The body breaks again shiver.

All my previous attempts have failed to escape, and only about self-defense and not talking. If I have to use force, I will tear at the time into small pieces. Evil creatures continued to dig into my eyes. He walks slowly from side to side, keeping me a glare. I feel like a bird in a cage, from which just about will not remain and wet places.

My breath quickens, the heart begins to beat faster. It seems now I'm going to faint. Well, I do not! Then it will be too easy for him to win, but I still want to fight for your life. Though I understand that it is meaningless.

Over the forest dusk, cold wind pierces my bones, and I do not understand, from what shaking longer: from cold or fear ...

Chapter 1

Virginia.

May 19. Thursday.

Trill of the alarm, which is so hard trying to get me to come down, been going on for three minutes, if not more. If I force myself to open my eyes, it does not mean that will attain vigor. Well, the main thing - to get up, and wake up later.

Several months ago, my beloved grandmother had died on his mother's side, leaving me his small house in an inconspicuous village on the edge of the forest. Hardly unimaginable effort, I persuaded my mother to let me move now, and do not embarrass them.

My mother, Anastacia, and her father, Christian, have failed in their family relations five years ago. We Teddy terribly grieved parents break, although due cause we have not explained. Brother took my father, and I stayed with her mother. Until recently, it seemed to us that the parents come together again, but the miracle did not happen. But who knows how fate will turn on.

My mother remarried two years ago, we moved to Virginia. Luc Berne - a good man, a good match for his mother, but his daughter - she is still a bitch. To get along with Teresa was very difficult, especially given the fact that we had to share a room. She's my age, we learn in the same school, but, thank goodness, in parallel classes.

But now I live separately from everyone. I will not interfere, and no one bothers me. Although, I confess, I really miss Grandma. It has always been my main support in everything, especially these last two years, emotionally heavy.

Thoughts on this native man always makes me tears, but now is not the time to cry. With open arms on his physics lesson I was waiting for Mr. Banks. We have with him the mutual tensions.

More precisely, I do not like physics, and this is Mr. Banks does not like me.

A cup of hot strong coffee makes me a morning energy. So great to feel like a bitter liquid flows down the throat, pushing you closer to the tide forces. Weather in the street again shine its warmth, bathing the city a continuous cascade of cool rain. It seems that the morning sun I'll have to wait another unknown amount of time.

On the way to school I could hardly perebaryvat the urge to turn back and bask all day in bed, pretending to cold, when suddenly my mother called. Rain never stops. Bulky drops banging loudly on the roof and hood of my old "Opel". I turn the radio knob to make loud, but because of the terrible rain signal. Heck!

School I have absolutely normal. Not super modern gymnasium for clever and clever. On the territory firmly stand three buildings made of red brick, ample parking and a small seating area with a few benches and dining tables. Although in this weather, they do not need.

For several minutes wandering around the parking lot, I could hardly find an empty seat. Students at an accelerated pace in a hurry to escape from the rain in their buildings, like ants, run throughout to a single house. For some reason, I thought it was funny, I laughed to myself. Yeah, because now I also turn into a school "ant."

Turn off the engine, I jumped on the head hood raincoat, grab a passenger seat backpack with textbooks and get out of the warm cab cars at cold spring jets. Brr! Clothing, though not waterproof, but the feeling is still uncomfortable.

Squelching through puddles, I finally reach the third building, which now I have to go through with the physics of highly respected Mr. Banks. Maybe it's not too late to return to the warm and homely bed? No, the fool is clear that I am doomed.

- Phoebe! - I hear the familiar voice to the pain, and already looking forward to the next story with Brigitte night hangouts.

Bridget Clarkson - My crazy friend. It is almost the same as me, but she attends a party more often. Though to admit, I do not always mind her company on the occasion of a hike in the night club or somewhere else. However, yesterday I decided to skip the party.

- Come on, Bridget - I roll my eyes - you tell me who this time got into the hands of your fluid to the party.

Girlfriend giggles, playfully shoving me in the shoulder.

- You will soon get to know him, Gray! How about "absent from physics"?

Inspired by Brigitte no chapel. Of course, it always introduces me to his boys. It seems that a friend has already gathered quite a collection.

- Oh, well, I do not, I will not let Mr. Banks such luxury! - mocking grin me. - Besides, I'm not in vain pored over his puzzles! Today my homework done your best.

Bridget laughs again.

- I understand you, Phoebe. You want to pull the nerves back to our old man. I still can not forget your past scandal.

Restored in the head bits of the last class, I mentally grin. Yes, activating the mechanism brought Mr. Banks, I de-energize the school. Not weak reprimand he received from the director, and of course then got me.

In a good mood, we follow the hallway straight to the correct office. The class can not boast a large number of people, eager to get a knowledge base. Coquettishly winking Mark Austin in the first row, which is the second week is not looking at me, I'm going to the party. I do not know why, but it amuses me embarrassment.

After going into place, we Bree pull out a notebook and a textbook on the desk. Always ready to new knowledge in the field of physics.

- Good morning! - In the class of the teacher comes.

Mr. Banks elderly aged man, slightly overweight, and holds nehily lawn on his head. Points-half gives it some solidity.

- Well, in the beginning of the session and it is not clear, it is good or not - let go of a replica of me. - carry out further laboratory, Mr. Banks?

The class runs quiet wave of muffled giggles, and teachers face boils familiar to me complain.

- LURES mind at the blackboard, Miss Gray, - he grumbles. - I'm waiting for an answer from you to the home task.

Resolutely stood up, I quickly heading to the board, taking with him a notebook with homework.

Until I showed the solution of the first problem, Mr. Banks intently watching my actions, probably trying to find a mistake. Well, I do not! In his reply, I'm sure.

Finally, having added the solution, I walk back to my place, and still the teacher is looking for flaws in my notes on the blackboard.

- Well, - he murmurs, - we assume that this time you're in luck, Miss Gray.

His voice, as if gnashing forks, forcing a frown and suppress the gag reflex. These words I leave without comment, but even if it does not expect that I will remain indebted to the next time.

A source: http://online-knigi.com/page/590954

Become father after forty can be, but - gently Video

Later fatherhood: when disappearing "in the old dog"? Video

If even a cursory look at the marriage ads on dating sites, you will notice a pattern: "limit" for the future husband is the age of 40 years. This is no accident.

With these gentlemen women can get acquainted with a very big difference with their own age. Often the "strip" of 40 years is set for future potential and chosen 25-year-old charmer, a and 30-35 year-olds - so very often.

Much less a young woman willing to link their lives with 45-year-old man. Well, after this "threshold" often can be observed the opposite trend - like ads "ready to give care and comfort of a woman 55 years of age will find themselves chosen to 45-50."

In general, the above pattern can be explained by purely social aspects. Relatively young women getting married usually plan to have children.

But his little bear Well - we must also raise, bring up, to care for him at least to obtain a higher education degree. What is usually not before 22-24 years.

And to ensure it is all in my mother alone is very difficult - and for this she needs the spouse-assistant.

Shot in the locker ...

But if a lot of help can have, say, 70-year-old man, who was 47 at the time of the wedding? He himself has often need help - because of a "bouquet" sores, and a pension to support his family with more complicated non-working children.

It turns out that women are just intuitively understand - it is necessary to marry such men, whose real adulthood unborn child "is another shot in the locker." Hence, the conventional "desirability threshold" for Cavaliers 40, at least 45 years. Well, those who are older, are usually only interested in the ladies' middle-aged. "

And what about the "social adjustments" made to the matrimonial action of modern civilization? Indeed, many "men of 40" (or even 50) can have a lot of advantages - high-paying job or even their own business, a significant property.

This allows them to not even taking into account the best possible health to children where the big "head start" in comparison with young fathers. In fact, these moments play a significant role in the families of prisoners at a young age, when the couple decide to have children after a career, buy a house, a good zaimeyut income ...

child disease risk

In fact, not very big Furnished desirability of children for women aged long been known. Alas, every year they increase the risk of fetal congenital genetic diseases such as "Down syndrome".

But until recently, these laws were considered typical only for the "fair sex". The men believed that they are able to become fathers at any age - and, "without losing quality", only to have the money for the maintenance of the wife and raise heirs.

Hence, by the way, and often follow the old proverb "gray in his beard - a lusty", when at the age of 50 under the above seems to be "great family man" suddenly "rush of winds" - not only have mistresses, but often even throwing the family by marrying young and becoming themselves the "young fathers", albeit with gray.

Well, on the one hand, male menopause, in contrast to the female, really is not an absolute "ban" on the continuation of the species.

If you give in the process changing the whole "hormonal kitchen" of the body, blocking the possibility of fertilization and development a fertilized egg (with a few exceptions, though) - the semen at the "stronger sex" continues to produce almost to the grave.

Of course, as amended, for possible medical disorders, including sexual sphere. Because if BPH, for example, forced to have surgery to remove this gland, then the possibility of full sexual intercourse becomes almost a fiction.

The chances of men to healthy offspring shrinking with age

But if the general (and "masculine") health is not yet very lame - that, in general, you can really become a father even though in 90 years, such cases are described in the media quite regularly.

But is it worth doing it - in any case, no particular reason? Alas, scientists from the US Georgetown University give it a negative response. In the course of many years of research, they found that, in general, men with age have the same increasing the chances of the emergence of sick children, as well as women.

For example, among children 40-year-old fathers frequency of Down syndrome, autism, certain other mental disorders was 6 times higher than those of men who had children in 30 years age. Well, about the older guys, probably - and say nothing.

In general, a "critical threshold" desirability Cavaliers for wanting to get married ladies dating sites in 40 years received a new solid confirmation.

What are the advantages of "late child"

Of course, this does not mean that after 40 paternity plans, whether in cash the family "with experience", whether in the family of the new, it is necessary to uniquely "tie." In fact, the "late children" also has its advantages. They tend to be more intelligent (although the more "frail"), more than love their parents.

One good friend of mine was born when his mother was 36 years old, and dad - 41. Just at the same time we must understand - the talents of the late children may even occur then, if in the course of pregnancy will not occur for some genetic, and therefore incurable disease.

The chances of that, unfortunately, are increasing with every passing year - and a woman, and a man ...

When to think of later fatherhood

So think about fatherhood after 40 worth only when it has for a very good reason. The absence of children, young wife, is something else. But if you get married in 20-25 years and postpone Furnished offspring due to some purely material reasons (career, apartment, car, money), then perhaps it would not be the best choice for a man who wants to have healthy offspring.

Nosovskiĭ Yuri

A source: http://www.medpulse.ru/health/gynaecology/pregnancy/21894.html

Pros and cons of the late Pope

In the fashion of late fatherhood. People rumor ascribes to these children an exceptional talent. So it is good or bad - old dad?

Published: April 21, 2008

human talent does not depend on the age of his father, according to the head. Department of Medical Genetics of the Russian State Medical University, MD, Professor Vladimir Sitnikov.

All calculations are done amateurs to delve into the pedigrees of great men, from a scientific point of view built is not entirely correct.

The researchers took the biographies of famous personalities, watched what was the age of the parents at the time of the emergence of genius in the light, and often received information that his father had already reached old years old.

But when modern scientists took a sample of ordinary men and look what got them late children, they found no relationship between the age of the father and his child's abilities.

Yet in the late fatherhood has advantages.

• Typically, a talented person to adulthood is already implementing all abilities. And if his intellectual and creative flowering chronicled in the germ cells, this mutation could make a late baby more intelligent and energeticThan his older brothers and sisters. But for this father must be an extraordinary person, and such mutations arise very rarely.

• The germ cells mature men may be changes that sharpen the work of any one child's brain. The child will have, for example, phenomenal mathematical abilities or a very good memory.

• German Genetics Research Vogel showed that prominent men often marry prominent women. Conversely, 96% of the wives of men who have a low level of intelligence, too, are not intellectual.

Even intelligent young man, married early, often in the wrong life partner; intelligent man, remarry or later married are more likely to choose a decent half.

BUT Mom intelligence is very important for the future development of the child - not only because an intelligent woman will have more to deal with children, but also for the reason that a large part of the gene that is responsible for the endowment, is transferred from the mother.

• Some are little ability - for their development need mediabut. Create it for your child, of course, easier to man mature, held than the young.

But all these advantages can affect children only extraordinary men, and that is not certain. Advantages of late fatherhood hardly apply to the children of ordinary men with the average level of intelligence.

Cons late fatherhood more and more often they appear. The older the parents, the greater the likelihood that their child will have certain developmental defects. Men often work in hazardous industries, and prone to bad habits more than women, and therefore failures in their germ cells with age typed a lot.

Of course, most normal children are born to older dads. Still planning children after 45 years of genetics is not recommended.

• First of all "Broken" genesWhich in the course of evolution arose last ones - the ones that are responsible for the mental activity. Previously it was thought that Down syndrome in a child occurs due to a breakdown in the parent's genes. Now we found that the contribution of male and female genes in the occurrence of this disease is about the same. A man can be "guilty" even a little more.

• Father's damaged genes can cause malformations of limb, defects in the immune system child.

• Another "legacy" that the aging Pope may leave their children later - increased risk of cancer or fall into premature aging: a condition where the cells in the body due to violations of the activity of one of the enzymes begin to share with incredible speed. Unlike other anomalies that are visible immediately after birth, the latter two diseases can lick the late child when he has become a father.

When the family where the husband is not a young man, decides to have a baby, it is first of all speaks of its strength. Still, the couple must be prepared for some of the psychological difficulties associated with the age of the father, according to child psychologists Olga Krushelnitsky and Antonina Tretyakov.

• A mature person perceives what is happening quietly, can predict events. For children such features - a great boon: they provide emotional stability relationsIt gives the child a sense of security. Late father helps the child develop logical thinking.

• The elderly Pope more life experience, it is very responsible approach to educationIt seeks stronger to put the child on his feet. Such fathers picked up the child a good school, consult with psychologists, are not allowed to pamper mom child, brought up in its responsibility.

• An elderly dad who has attained a high social position, has, as a rule, extensive communication, your business or the name of the world's professionals. This is a very good "start-up capital" for a child.

• A small child - being energetic. He is ready to roll for hours of thundering toy flat, jump and scream, and wants his dad was involved in games too. Elderly father is not always happy, and there are conflicts.

They can be prevented if you give your child the opportunity pour out their energy not the Pope: to give to the garden, the sports section.

Father evening play with the heir of board games, read aloud, help collect model aircraft ...

• An elderly man is difficult to sustain outdoor gamesEspecially with his son. Physical contact with the child's father - is largely an imitation of a fight. The child tries to topple the mighty giant, to escape from the iron enemy capture ...

Emotions are produced in such turmoil, it is extremely important for the mental development of boys. A elderly father is willing to give physical contact rather the female type (hugging and kissing).

Advice here is simple: try to keep the boy to communicate more with his older brothers, younger uncles, family friends.

• For a good psychological climate of family needs harmony in sexual relationships spouses.

If a woman is experiencing chronic dissatisfaction (for sexual activity of older men often decreases), it affects the child.

A man in an atmosphere of irritability will increasingly move away from the family, immersed in work and personal interests. A child is more likely to experience double the burden of maternal love and care, which will interfere with normal development.

• Family life is not confined within the walls of the house. The child is not just once or twice will have to explain to people that this man - not his grandfather, and my father. That he spoke with pride, the father should be modern manRather than "dinosaur", which measures all the yardstick of the last century.

A source: http://zdr.ru/articles/pljusy-i-minusy-pozdnego-papy

In Bashkiria late fatherhood is becoming the norm

17.04.2013 16:47:40

That only happens in my life. Once again I was convinced, taking the child out of kindergarten. This evening I was late. In the group were my daughter and the boy, who was "always the first cause and the last pick up." On it I often tell the teacher complaining fidget.

Plato really very lively child, even against the background of active peers. He is always to just have a case. He was at the epicenter of all the events taking place in the middle group. And that would not happen here, of course, not without the active participation of Plato. In general, these children are delivered hassle million teachers, and one a zinger in the group is worth all the remaining 25 wards.

- It is not surprising why his parents are not in a hurry to take home - the teacher says in vain trying to send the boy to peacefully playing at the table for children - would have their will and on the weekends, probably, left.

With parents, of course, the incident went. Plato, in a brand new group. When I came to him for the first time a man, the teacher, given the advanced age of the parent, decided that it was the boy's grandfather.

And I said, "Take away possible grandson early, they say, the child's adaptation, at this time the baby especially need to feel parental love and affection."

"Grandpa," a little embarrassed, but not outright call educators to exercise paternal feelings, but by his own admission, he says, he is a father. Here the teacher embarrassed, apologized.

- Yes, do not worry, - said the "young dad." - I'm often mistaken for a grandfather. The eldest daughter quite adult, live in Moscow. But with a new wife ventured into Platosha.

But it's all the background. I'll be back to the main action. That night I was late... So much so that even Plato dad came. In the children's dressing room was the familiar hum and hubbub - the boy as usual mouth was not closed - despite the fact that other children did not have room.

blankly (almost hopelessly) Happy father watched as his young offspring of dresses, endlessly distracted by many neperedelannyh Affairs. And it is necessary, in the father of the boy, I learned a good older friend of my parents.

At one time, thirty-plus years ago, he helped my mother to reassure inexperienced forever screaming (in infancy), I was coming up with all sorts of fun "otvlekalochki". Today, apparently, sixty other youth my parents' educational enthusiasm diminished.

This sketch of the life led me to think about the joys and doubts of late fatherhood. To speculate on the subject, I asked the psychologist-expert Lily Gysin.

- At all times it was thought - says psychologist - that there is a link between the child's intelligence and the intelligence of his parents. Highly intelligent parents always plays to light a potentially highly intellectual child. There is an opinion that geniuses are born to fathers older and very young mothers.

One can cite a long list of famous people who were born in pairs, where the father of at least a quarter of older maternal age. Michelangelo, Peter I, Catherine II, Goethe... In this regard, German scientists have derived a formula that maternal age should be half the father's age plus seven years.

However, without clear calculations, the older and wiser parents, the more significant factor of education, the greater the chance that the child's talent will be noticed and will be developed. Remember Dostoyevsky said first universities, and then give birth to children. The late fatherhood come consciously and development of the child much invested.

It's not just young casual. Here the father - the adult solid man who knows how to appreciate life and many can give a child.

Speaking of later fatherhood, it is important to be aware of the danger and the age factor. People for life accumulates mutations. The more mutations, the higher the risk of having a child with disabilities. Although genius is also a deviation ...

There is the concept of "average intelligence of the family." If the family is old enough man held, the average intelligence will be much higher than that of those parents who just gets to his feet themselves not long ago were children.

On the other hand, the age barrier effect is that children do not understand their elderly parents. They have different values, different understanding and perception of the world. In today's world, technological progress is by leaps and bounds. And it is natural for a child, then the parent's age is problematic. Children look to their parents as failures.

Moreover, the education of a young child requires physical effort. For example, my eldest daughter, as they say, a student child with us, "participated in all adventures": and went hiking, and rafting on the rivers. A younger daughter already for us to skate this feat.

Although late fatherhood today, rather the norm than the exception, however, a person must not only have time to give birth, but also to bring in people and put the child on his feet. With age, it is more difficult to do, including financially.

It must be with the child to leave school, master tutors, to pass the exam. Clearly, if a man or a successful business tycoon, who has a steady income.

And what in the retirement age can give ordinary employee? Late fatherhood - a risk and a big responsibility.

However, concludes psychologist, father age should discuss with a certain degree of relativity. Only if the mother is young and willing to take responsibility for the child. After all, Nietzsche said, the grandeur of the great mother, the father - it always coincidence.

According to the head of the Federal State Statistics Service of the Department of Health and Population Statistics for RB Irina Utyasheva in 2012 fathers aged 50 and over 413 have become citizens of the republic, in 2011 there were 228. So far, judging by the two figures on the rapid growth of the age of parenthood is impossible, says the expert, but the trend is definitely there.

A source: http://i-gazeta.com/news/region102/30144.html

Becoming a father is never too late

Nature has made men present - they are almost not worried about what is called the "biological clock". Unlike women, they can potentially become a parent in almost every period of his life. And in recent decades, the number of men who know the joy of fatherhood after fifty, only grows.

The origins of late fatherhood

Men, in fact, ever and especially not in a hurry with marriage and procreation. For centuries, public opinion, bringing down on this issue all their ardor to a fine half humanity, not the tyranny of their necessity as soon as possible to arrange a personal life and get heirs.

Which arose in the wake of feminism, female desire, too, not to hurry with the construction of a home and before you go down the aisle, to gain some experience in the relationship, relaxed, and men. In the last decades of the last century the good old postulates that it is important to start children in wedlock, and preferably earlier, and all retreated.

They absorbed the new rules of the game: first you need a professional place. This is facilitated by the principles of consumer society, and calls for the child, as a new small consumers, "the best of everything."

And if women are still subject to the law of the biological clock and are ready to suspend the career move to become a mother, the men concerned about this fact to a much lesser degree. They live with the subconscious feeling that parents always have time to become. But with the "life achievements" have to hurry.

In addition, men are more likely to remarry after forty-five years of age or older. Their beloved while often become young women who naturally want children. Men, as a rule, are still able to give them.

"Held a man with life experience, which has achieved a certain status in society, attracting young women - says psychologist Olga Jurkovic. - They feel it inner strength and ability to take care of the woman and to truly appreciate her feelings.

This corresponds to the natural mechanism of choosing the most reliable partner, able to adequately provide their offspring. For men, this partnership becomes a fountain of youth and bright emotions. "

German social psychologist Vasilius Ftenakkis, author of the study, "All facets of parenting and fatherhood" is bonded to the works in the field of pedagogy, anthropology, Psychology and Molecular Genetics, highlights: the very fact that a man can still give life, it becomes an important confirmation of his for him masculinity. "Most of these children are born later in men living with a young wife or girlfriend. And partly it becomes for a man still unconscious and confirmation that he is worthy of his companion, "- says Professor Ftenakkis.

In the countries of the European Union in the past year, almost every twentieth newborn is born from his father over fifty years. In the US, the Pope this kid gets one in ten men in the same age group. official statistics yet in our country, but according to opinion polls, and we have a number of men have experienced the joy of fatherhood at a later age is steadily increasing.

Late paternity risk factor

In the late fatherhood, as in motherhood, there are also risks. "If a parent stepped over fifty years, it often leads to disruption of the child's chromosomes, or hereditary disease - says the Swiss geneticist and physician Roland Spiegel. - In general, the risk of having unhealthy offspring of such fathers is higher than those who are younger.

When division of sperm cells and the formation of new DNA chains is always a risk of "failure" of the gene. The older a man is, the greater the likelihood. So, twenty father can pass to heirs about twenty-five genetic mutations, thirty-six - fifty and pyatidesyatitrehletny - already about a hundred.

Of course, the mutation does not mean it mandatory defect associated c subsequent illness of the child, but it is a serious risk factor. " At the age of fathers more often give birth to babies with impaired formation of the skeleton and bone. There is also a threat to the development of mental disorders in children.

According to the California National Laboratory Lawrence Livermo, autism syndrome in children, fathers were older than fifty, it occurs twice as often than those whose fathers are not more than thirty years old. Women bear a child whose father is older than fifty-five years, increases the likelihood of miscarriage and missed abortion.

"Of course, most children are still born healthy. But these risks it is important to know "- said Dr. Spiegel.

Late father - dad with experience

Most of the "recent dads" with whom we spoke, called paternity real gift. The obvious advantage - increasing the amount of time a person can be given to the family and the child. In adulthood, the man clearly prioritizes. As a rule, he has already reached certain heights in their careers, built his own house, and it appears more free time.

In addition, behind in mature fathers have experience of previous marriages, and often also adult children. And there comes an understanding of how much they have lost due to the career of the race and the lack of time for the child, and sometimes just a lack of curiosity in a child's life, typical of younger fathers.

Becoming a dad for the second half of life, modern man not only spends more time with the child, but also the much more active of those who were in his place thirty or forty years ago. The increased length and quality of life allows people to stay active longer and physical youth. It is no coincidence there was even a stable expression: "Modern fifty - are former forty."

If before the late pope agree more with the role of a wise grandfather, the current generation with joy shared concern for the care and all the active games that are inextricably linked with the life of a small child. And to the young parents have a distinct advantage in that they are at this time.

This is a conscious paternity, which implies not only a responsibility, but also the ability to receive pleasure and fun games with the kid that young fathers often perceived as a kind of duty.

"When I see how happily rushes to her husband's daughter, they both know how contagious laugh, they understand each other perfectly - I am happy that I chose this particular child's father - says Alla. - Yes, he's older than my peers, but that I had to learn a lot patience in dealing with our three-year plan. And the realization that childhood fly quickly and it is important to have time to enjoy them. "

"My father is old, he had died?"

But what about the fact that in the later fathers are likely to less likely to spend with the children as much time as it set aside more for young parents? "Life is unpredictable and is rich in scenarios that can not be pre-lay - says psychologist Olga Jurkovic.

- In fact, none of us knows how long he was destined to live. This is not something that should stop loving each other people who want to continue their love in children. After all, we live here and now. "

Is it selfish to children? "I do not believe - says Maria, mother of three baby, whose father was fifty-five years. Our child is happy and loved.

And that, as it is not the most reliable start to grow confident, held a man? "Yes, there is a large the likelihood that the child will think one day, his dad is obviously older than the majority of parents and peers, then, can suddenly leave it.

But children are always faced with the fear of losing loved ones and ask these questions even for young mothers and fathers. "This is a natural period of experience thoughts about a possible separation, - said Professor Ftenakkis. - In the case of an older father is compounded by the child's understanding of what the pope has less than life. You should not avoid the topic.

It is important to reassure the child, explaining that in the modern world, people are living much longer, "Yes, once we all will not be, but it still happens very, very soon, but for now we'll all be together." The child's attitude will to a certain extent depend on how freely and positively parents say about it.

If they react easily on the subject and translate child confidence: all healthy and all is well, not avoiding any issues that gradually weakens and children's stress. "

"As we sit tight preconceived idea of ​​what should be the so-called exemplary family, - says Olga, whose husband is a little over fifty, and his son five years. - It's Dad middle-aged mom just his junior, and two charming children. But who said that everything should be so and not otherwise, and this entrenched in our minds of the scheme and there is a road to family well-being? We should leave the internal settings and listen to your heart. The really important to only one thing: another new little man came to our world. And the value for the child is not the age of the parents, and the love which it is surrounded. "

Late Pope: in the first person

Nikolai, 55 years, journalist and photographer, father of six years Misha

Probably, having a midlife crisis, people are already aware of the finiteness of the way, and it largely helps him to live a meaningful and richer.

The advent of the son has made me more open in their feelings - I stopped hiding them, not afraid to seem too delicate and soft. I finally understand how important it is to people close to my son and my beloved woman, to know how they are dear to me.

This is something to which I did not grow in the younger years, hiding under the guise of false masculinity. And now, it hurts me to think that my eldest son much of my childhood was short. I am now in a different way to prioritize.

Earlier work has been for me in the first place. Now, the central place is occupied by a child, I can release a half-day for Misha and transfer the case to the later hours. For me, our relationship - is priceless.

Yuri, 65 years old, entrepreneur, father nine years Alice

Before the advent of Alice I already had two adult children, and the more I did not plan. But the meeting with the woman I loved, and who became a mother of my daughter, everything changed. Life is, as always, write your own script. Olga was younger than me by twenty-five years, and, of course, she wanted a baby.

And I, too, was happy to become a father again. One day in kindergarten when he saw me, ran over the boy to Alice: "For you, your grandfather came!" I was confused and did not immediately find the answer. But Alice did. "This is my dad, and he's in my best-best," - she said confidently.

I have my own business that no longer requires constant attention, and all the free time I spend with my daughter. We had always played a lot of outdoor games now play tennis, and winter Alice convinced me to stand on skates. She's the little motor that allows me to stay in good shape.

And I do not share the complaints of his peers that "everything was better before." Thanks to my daughter, I look only forward.

Vadim, 52 years, IT-engineer, father of two years Miti

Not only do we teach our children, but they have. However, I realized it only Mitya. The first daughter, Sonia, was born when I was not yet thirty, and I brought it in a spirit of perfectionism. Angry when she could not quickly get dressed or to perform some task in math or writing. Now I understand: I just do not have the patience.

And often in the desire to make the child stand on their own instincts to free up time for yourself. The emergence of Mitya taught me to relate to children and adults with a greater understanding and respect for their right to be wrong.

I think I that I can leave her son, when he is still too young? Yes, such thoughts sometimes is rolled, but in general I look at life optimistically. Probably, my eldest daughter Sonia Remember me younger, but often we had were both like two stubborn child. Mitya got more than a wise and understanding father.

Besides Mitya in life will not be alone - he and Sonia are very close, and together we are the children spend a lot of time. Now I understand how important it is not only for children but also for me!

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